How to like yourself:From self-loathing to self-acceptance

How to like yourself: From self-loathing to self-acceptance When a therapist asks you, "Do you like yourself?" almost everyone would say, "I hate myself." But it's not as simple as getting a new phone - when we hate ourselves, we can't just replace it with something better. If we continue to hate ourselves, how can we find happiness? Adler once said, "It's not about what we are given, but how we make use of what we are given." This doesn't mean you have to tolerate the way you hate yourself, but rather give yourself new meaning and start anew. 1. The power of self-determination "Unable to like myself" is actually because you have decided not to like yourself, not because you have certain flaws. Just like how you can easily find countless reasons to dislike someone - gentle people become indecisive, meticulous people become nagging. Your self-loathing is simply a result of you choosing to see yourself from a critical perspective. 1. Understanding the motivation behind self-loathing Why do we decide not to like ourselves? Sometimes it's to avoid relationships. We're afraid of rejection, so instead of being disliked by others, we reject ourselves first: "I'm not good enough, no one will accept me." These are the obstacles to our own happiness that we set for ourselves. 1. Fear of changing lifestyle We dislike our current selves, but changing our way of life is terrifying. Because once we change, we will lose the familiar, restrictive but safe patterns. It's like having a crush on someone and thinking they're avoiding you. In reality, it's your subjective belief that they are avoiding you because you don't want the relationship to develop. 1. The courage to face self-change To transform from self-loathing to self-acceptance, you must bravely let go of the obsession of not engaging with others and redefine yourself. Liking yourself is not an easy task, but only by truly breaking down the barriers of self-denial can you learn to view yourself positively and create a happy life. Liking yourself is not about ignoring your flaws, but rather seeing them in a new light. Don't limit yourself based on the past, try to accept yourself from a new perspective. This is the first step towards happiness.