How to stay calm in anger and improve the “fengshui” between people?

How to stay calm in anger and improve the "feng shui" between people? When people talk while angry, there will always be disagreements and blame towards each other, because people are in a fighting state to protect themselves. After all, when people are angry, they naturally clench their fists and cannot shake hands with each other. One of my female entrepreneur friends, Mary, started a business partnership with a few people and eventually owned her own company building. Mary's greatest strength is that no matter how critical the situation is or how troublesome the person is, she always responds with a "boldly go ahead and do it" and quickly prepares for any work without wasting time getting angry. As a result, the employees in her company have absolute trust in her. Whenever someone asks her, "Have you never gotten angry since starting your business?" Mary always laughs and replies, "How is that possible? I used to get angry at the beginning. But then I realized that even if I get angry, I cannot convey my thoughts to others, and others cannot understand. In that case, work cannot proceed." Mary says that when she often thinks about how to make others understand her intentions, she naturally doesn't get angry because she focuses completely on solving the problem itself rather than getting angry. This way, she can communicate peacefully with others. Indeed, everyone hopes to be understood by others. People don't like stubborn people, and the most annoying thing is being denied by others while they are angry. On the contrary, people like those who are willing to listen to their thoughts. Everyone agrees with those who can understand them, those who are willing to listen to them. This is how mutual understanding between people is formed. If you really want to convey your thoughts to the other person and understand each other, the first thing to do is to calmly and attentively listen to the other person's words and think from their perspective. In doing so, you will understand how to express yourself so that the other person can understand, and communication will be more effective. When people are angry, they often don't want to understand the other person. But strangely enough, when you decide to listen to the other person's words, the anger immediately subsides, and positive feelings towards the other person emerge. So the next time you have an argument, try saying, "You go ahead and speak first," and let the other person express themselves. Even if you want to refute the other person, it's best to approach them with an understanding mindset, listen to them first, and keep listening until the end. However, at this time, it is important to differentiate between the other person's thoughts and your own thoughts. If you want to express your own thoughts, you can start by saying, "Actually, I think this way," and then explain your point of view. Based on this communication concept, you need to have control over your own aura.