What's more precious than 'love' in a relationship is actually this emotion
What is a Long-Term Deep Liking?
Long-term deep liking is the appreciation of another person based on 'who they are' and 'the attributes they possess'. As described by Rubin in his exploration of romantic love in the 1970s:
"Liking someone means enjoying the time you spend with them, appreciating and valuing them."
This requires us to treat the other person as a separate subject from us and to evaluate them in an appealing way.
When there is a long-term deep liking for a person, we are able to appreciate and praise the other person's strengths from the bottom of our hearts. In contrast, the other person's faults appear flawed and become less important.
Long-term deep liking is not a momentary passionate adoration, but a kind of 'not getting tired of it'. After a long period of time has passed, we still like each other in a state of sanity. This kind of emotion develops slowly but lasts for a long time. Long-term deep liking does not require that we have each other, and we don't even need to spend a long time with each other, but we are happy to see each other once in a while, and we can satisfy each other with a short period of companionship and dependence.
How Does It Arise?
- The first stage, a single positive emotion: Attracted to a particular characteristic of the other person before they have had much interaction with each other. Or, when feeling the hormones and sexual tension of the other person's body, a happy emotion arises.
- The second stage is a more composite, three-dimensional positive emotion: This emotion, encompassing two or more of lust, attachment, appreciation, or admiration.
Why Do We Develop Long-Term Deep Favorites for Some People?
- They give us a glimpse of our idealized selves: They possess the qualities we admire and aspire to, and in a way, they also bring together and realize our ideals.
- They expand our ego (self-expansion): When we are with them, we see ourselves differently and discover another side of ourselves.
- They fulfill our subconscious "relationship needs": We may not be able to know all of our psychological needs, and we may have a long-term deep liking for ta because the other person fills a gap in our heart.
What Does a Long-Term Deep Favorite Bring to the Table?
- Positive attitude towards life: Long-term and deep liking brings us a positive attitude towards life, motivates us to care for ourselves, and inspires us to improve ourselves.
- Staying with us through life's "hard times": When faced with life's struggles, this liking translates into a pillar of strength that energizes our lives and motivates us to get out of the moment.
- Learning and imitating each other to develop a better self-image: The basis of long-term deep liking is appreciation. When you spend time with someone you admire, you learn the other person's strengths subconsciously.
How Can You Have a Long-Term Deep Favorite from Someone?
The answer is simple: discover and stay true to yourself.
- Step 1: Awareness: Awareness of your own characteristics.
- Step 2: Adherence: Follows its own characteristics.
- Step 3: Amplify your features: Finally, make these traits more visible in you as well.
Long-term deep liking may not be love, but it may be more valuable than love. Love often means having each other, changing each other, and making compromises and accommodations on both sides. But long-term deep liking can be unconditional, simply because one likes and appreciates the other person as a person, and the other person doesn't need to do anything but be true to himself.
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