Why Keeping Calm Is More Powerful Than Getting Angry?
Understanding and Managing Anger
The third reason anger can get the best of us is that it can cause us to lose our judgment.
It is very dangerous to allow anger to dominate our behavior. People cannot control what they say when they are angry, so they may say things they shouldn't or become self-absorbed and lose what is important to them.
Suppose you are criticized by someone at work, "You have caused so much trouble", and you are so angry that you want to retort, "Wait a minute, how can I be blamed?" As if the boiling water boils instantly, you may retaliate, saying You might hit back and say, "You've caused a lot of trouble before," or "In that case, I'm quitting".
One of the characteristics of anger is that once it manifests itself due to emotional excitement, it makes itself even more furious. But after calming down, people can't help but regret that "it wasn't anything to get worked up about" and "if I had known that I wouldn't have said that in the first place."
So why are we getting so worked up?
The true nature of anger is actually the "defense instinct" of people who want to protect themselves.
When we feel that we are about to suffer a loss, we go into battle mode all at once and want to attack those who are hostile to us. When we become emotional, we fail to see anything else because we want to be so focused on protecting ourselves. Therefore, it is wisest not to give the floor to your feelings and not allow them to dictate your actions, especially by avoiding making important decisions or saying things that could hurt the other person at this time. Not only are the actions at this time emotionally unconvincing, but you may also be lifting a stone to hit your own feet.
In addition, even if you are angry to protect yourself, attacking others will make you more enemies. At this point, it is best to try to be patient. When you are upset, do not do anything and let such a state pass by itself. When your mood calms down and you think about what to do better, you can definitely find a better way.
You can state the validity of your position, but keeping your stress to a minimum and getting the job done is a priority. Even if you want to refute someone, wait until you've calmed down, put yourself in the role of an actor, and ask the person with a smile on your face, "Can you please tell me what I can do better?" Then take action.
And what comes next may take a turn you didn't expect. So, my friend, you can totally enhance your Heart Flow Flow through a set of ways based on Eastern philosophy, aesthetics and Feng Shui:
- Wear jewelry that contains the following materials:
- Use the following Chinese Feng Shui patterns:
- Chinese flowering crab-apple (Malus spectabilis)
- Cotton rose pattern
- Choose this group of traditional oriental colors:
These motifs and colors are rich in strong protective power and can enhance the energy of the jewelry, creating a heart flow Flow for you.